It takes time until they realize you weren't the reason for their pain if ever. Decisions are only rational to them while the rest of the world shakes their had. But don't forget there is always friends or family that will support bad decisions even to the detriment of children.
Do you have a thread now Whytry ?
I really hate to tie up wets thread for my response to you. And I apologize in advance for doing that. I went back and read your stuff here, and I looked up your spouses stuff too. Now, are you speaking about your friends and family that supported your bad decisions when you were threatening to divorce her ? Or her bad choices for having enough of your affairs, and blaming her for them, while ranting and raving in front of the children about how your anger and pain was her fault ?
If you want to support wet, then maybe you could just support him, instead of interjecting tidbits of untruthful statements. And maybe you could start a thread and actually work through your problems too. Everyone here deserves support, all that we ever ask, is for honesty.
