New to DB - Need Help! Pt 2

[NH115]

Sounds like I'm doing what I need to do vis a vis my GAL and mood. I am generally able to keep things light and upbeat at home, we have joked & found funny things to laugh about. I haven't lost my temper (outside of a couple of arguments) in months. No moping. Looks like that part is going OK.

I have made my boundaries very clear regarding a PA. She knows that any physical contact between them means I am done. She also knows that if she left me for him or anyone else, that he had better be everything she wanted, because I will no longer be an option to her. I can see some scenarios where I would be open to R, but the window of opportunity for that would be short. I won't mention that possibility to her. No safety nets.

I'm OK with giving her a little bit of time to process OM in her head and get him resolved, but that grace period won't last forever. I'm still trying to decide what my time limit is on this.

I just noticed your location; you live in the same state as OM.