Well done! There's a lot of takeaways from W's comments. I think she's given you some invaluable insights on her POV of you and the M. Keep them in the back of your mind.
Originally Posted By: HPoirot
Do want to make sure I didn't shoot myself in the foot with anything last night though. I'm aware her saying she would end contact with OM yesterday is nothing. I do have an immediate MC option in mind. Should I bring up setting an appointment?
It would not be a bad idea to begin researching MCs in your area and ask them questions about their practices, theories, and approaches. At this time, I wouldn't set up an appointment. However, ask the MCs if you can see them to "interview" them in person so you can get a better feel for who they are and you'll be able to see if you can click with them or not.
We recommend that DBers see SBT (solution-based therapy) therapists who use Gottman marriage therapy principles.
When the time comes, you will have a better sense of who you'd like to see down the road. Right now, it is not the time to do so because your W has't cut ties with the OM.
