Why didn't you ask H to pick up the kids from school? That would seem appropriate even if you had been Dd for years.
Hope the sun is shining where you are like it is here.
I didn't ask H because when I was in the ER and we were texting, he was clear that he "had meetings" all afternoon. I also knew that I could probably get S19 to pick up D12, or one of my friends would do it. D16 already had a way home from school, her bf was going to pick her up. (They go to different school, not remotely in the same neighborhood).
My main issue with H on this is not that he didn't pick them up, I didn't ask him to, but that he didn't think ahead that his children would need a way home from school if their regular ride was in the ER. And so I can't fault him for not doing it, I didn't ask him to. But I don't think it's unreasonable for these things to occur to their father. Maybe I'm way off base on that one. Maybe I spent too many years doing it all myself for these things to even occur to him and now I am faulting the beast I've created.
It's the sense of being taken care of that I'm looking for, not the actual act of picking them up. I had the logistics taken care of, I always do. I just wanted someone to say "I have your back".
And it is in fact a beautiful sunny day in South Florida.
