Hi Calibri...I am new here too, and you came to the right place, sometimes it's the only comfort to my heart. I am learning to detach, to love myself again, to let people control their own issues and try to do the best to control mine. I am very angry at my H right now, like you, I was left with 3 kids to take care after, bills to pay, appointments, the whole thing on me. H move out and even took a vacation w/OW. Somehow, with help and support from friends and this board, I have been giving more value to myself and yes I can do the heavy lift right now. It hurts, and hurts a little more every minute, that the person you love is saying that it's all your fault that they are unhappy. Hang in there, every day give yourself a chance to look at something positive and slowly things will feel a little easier. I find the best in here is the fact that you start giving much value, respect and finding the person you really are. It's amazing how we become someone else during a R, and finding who you truly are is difficult... but not impossible. Take good care of yourself and start little by little to built that confidence that you are worth. Be patient... be kind to you... and good luck! Pink
