Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt.2

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Thanks Wonka. W asked me straight up what I had on the computer and I showed one of my cards to show her I was being open and honest with her. She already assumed I was "spying" so it was really no surprise to her. I have other reliable ways to gather Intel, so no worries there.

I've taken steps to protect myself: new bank account, moved money out of joint accounts, closed credit card with W on it. She took out a $10k student loan a few weeks after DDay and I talked her into moving the funds to her sole account so I didn't have any liability for the new debt. She already ran up one credit card, but I have spent joint money too where it would be beneficial to me. I'm getting the house, so you know, the house is getting A LOT of past due maintenance and updating right now. :-)

Tonight was surprising. W came home and told me that one of her career mentors told her that her name came up at an expo. He said that potential employers think she is "too pretty for her own good" and he advised that she needs to tone down her behavior. He said that word is getting around that her M is on the rocks and that is another red flag for employers. The cracks are beginning to show. W seemed concerned that OM might be talking...

W said "after hearing all that, I am going to reconsider my approach for the next couple of months." She wouldn't elaborate on what this means but did say she will not be staying out as late, will be volunteering to be the DD more, and will dress more modestly at work functions.

Her career aspirations have her by the reigns! Too bad it seems she only is motivated to change where it is beneficial to her and her career.

I'm reading between the lines here, but the vibe I got was that W is rethinking S and D; or at least rethinking the timing of it all. It's like it just dawned on her that people might not want to hire a pretty party girl. In her words she is "an HR nightmare." Don't eff where you work!

On another note, I think my W is either crying often or she is on something that makes her eyes really watery. I am a bit inexperienced when it comes to drugs of any kind, but I know her friends smoke pot. I've found her googling Adderall several times too. She has lighters in her purse, but no cigarettes and never smells like smoke. Tonight I walked into the kitchen and she was scarfing down the leftovers I had just put in the fridge. I was like...uhh hey W. Are you okay? (She hasn't touched any food I've made or bought for the past week I assume to show me how independent she is). Maybe she is crying because she is sad and is eating because she is hungry. I dunno. I don't want to ignore the warning signs though. She has lost a bit of weight, she takes two showers a day where she used to take 3-4 showers per week, and she has stopped working out. Any advice from the street wise?