Big doins, M. First of all, you never have to apologize to me. You feel how you do. It's always your choice in how you act and what you say.
Your h's brain is on overload right now. He has mixed feelings about you and about her and if the kid is his.
A lot for him to sort out, right? Best to give him plenty of space to do it.
Remember that he was unhappy and thought the ow was the answer. Now he may be realizing that isnt the case but the there is the added element that the baby might be his. She represented the possibility of an end to the pain he felt in crisis. I know it doesnt make sense, but, we arent in a crisis so it wont to us.
If she wasnt the answer and leaving you wasnt it either, that means he has to start to look at himself. That's hard stuff for them.
Please try not to be upset if he is sad about what is going on with her. I know it's hard not to take it personally, but, it really isnt.
He is all mixed up and it's crazy up in his head right about now.
Please find your footing. Your children are watching. They need to not get their hopes up until and unless you and your xh figure out what you want.
M, it is always ok to be the you that you want to be. No one is living your life.
So, you said what you wanted to say to her. Time to leave that alone. She isnt worth your time and energy.
