Yes, we've had dust-ups and anger and all the stuff that makes us human. On occasion I've had "What the hell was I thinking?" pop-up because it's work to have an adult R. But the good outweighs the bad by far.
The difference now is we work to solve it, not just close our eyes, insert fingers in our ears while repeating loudly "I can't hear you" I try to approach difficult things from a place of love, not anger. It's as simple as letting the anger pass and having the discussion in the context of "this person loves me" as opposed to "what was that all about, a$$hole?" That doesn't mean we don't express anger, just in a different way. TODAY was a great day to catch up on Crimson's thread. Then I came to find this ^^ gem. Thanks...SIGH...
So yeah, Crimson, it's not a linear OR Smooth road, maybe ever? I mean, a part of me likes feeling as if it's too late to start over ONLY in that it feels settled and as if I know that when you make the best of something, you make it good!
But there are times I say, WHY Did I believe everything would be better/different? Was I in denial?
Other times I wonder how the heck other couples in history, stayed together and SEEMED at peace. Were they all lying or did they CHOOSE to be happy? And if it's the latter, which it must have been for some, how'd they Implement that?
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You can't fix her.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
That doesn't mean we don't express anger, just in a different way.