Busting this Divorce - Standing Firm

[HPoirot]

Ok here's my draft...

W,

First, I appreciate the initiative you took to do look into this session and reaching out.

Even so, I don't appreciate you speaking for me in your email without checking in with me. Again, I am willing to attend counseling or some other couples training with the condition that OM is completely out of the picture. It is incredibly unfair to me, to you, and to our family to pretend to work on the marriage when you're still in contact with OM. This is non-negotiable. I am NOT willing to continue living in an open marriage.

I need to make one thing clear to you. I made a very serious mistake in judgement bringing OW into our marriage. That was highly inappropriate and disrespectful to you. I was wrong and it will never be repeated.

These are the choices that you're making now and continuing to do so. Please stop sending me information on marriage counseling until the OM is out of the picture.

I am not wavering on this to protect our marriage and our family. Continuing to ignore this is incredibly disrespectful.

Thanks,
HP