She's a tough nut to crack. But wait. So are YOU too. Stay the course.
You can respond to W with this suggestion (please feel free to change to suit your personality/style...however, please be sure to post your draft here before hitting the 'send' button). We are supporting you with suggested responses as you can learn how to compose responses in keeping with STFU and KISS principles which in time you will do on your own. ______________________________________________
W,
First of all, I want to appreciate the initiative you took to do look into this session and reaching out.
However, I really don't appreciate you putting words in my mouth in your email to strangers without checking in with me. Once again, I am willing to attend MC counseling or some other couples training with the condition that the OM is completely out of the picture. It is incredibly unfair to me, to you, and to our family to pretend to work on the marriage when you're still seeing OM. This is a nonstarter. I am NOT willing to continue living in an open M.
I need to make one thing abundantly clear to you. I made a very serious mistake in judgement by getting involved with OW which was highly inappropriate and disrespectful to you and our marriage. I recognized the error of my ways and it will never be repeated.
In summary, these are the choices that you're making now and continuing to do so. Please cease sending me information or other resources on MC or marriage-related events UNLESS and UNTIL the OM is out of the picture.
I am not wavering on this boundary that has been put in place to protect the marriage and our family. Continuing to ignore or breaching this boundary is incredibly disrespectful and downright disingenuous.
