HP I don't usually have much to add to other's threads besides how I have screwed up.
I do believe you need to hold firmly to your boundaries now that they are stated and understood. I feel if I would have done that strongly in the beginning, things would be much different now.
I am sorry you are being hit with all of this. Stay strong.
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015