Busting this Divorce - Standing Firm

[HPoirot]

Thank you sandi and starsky. It is comforting to know good people like zew have gone through what we're all going through here now and survived. I want to be strong knowledgable enough to handle this better... maybe even one day help someone else through this. Honestly, this site is the main... really only... consistent support I have. I am grateful for it and for you.

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My W came home to drop off S11 and immediately left for her office a an hour ago.

Now I get this email which mentions my OW...

Hi HP,

I emailed the program I sent you the link about, and here is the reply I received. My email to them is at the bottom of the page...then their response is right below this email.

HP, I realize you don't want to go unless I end all contact with OM. I am telling you that OM is not the issue. I think you realize this. However, I also understand your insistence that I do. To be honest with you, I have been thinking of why I don't want to. And I want to explore that with you in a safe space. It is probably akin to the feeling you get when you talk with OW. That, and nothing more, but nothing less either. And so we are in this place and it is awful. I am trying to be as honest as I can. I realize you cannot be my 'friend' in this, and that is partially why I feel the need to separate and deal with this individually. But I also know that we have a lot to work through and that the best way to do so is as a team. At any rate...this [censored]...and I know it is doubly hard for you. I sincerely realize that this has impacted you greatly and that I have hurt you so deeply.

To that end, I believe that this weekend experience could be very good for us. Please read below and let me know if you will consider it.

Thanks,

W

The email she sent to the counselors was...

Hello, I wanted to ask you if your workshop is suitable for couples in our situation. My husband and I have been married for 16 years, and I want to separate. I just don't feel we have anything else to give...but my husband HP feels differently. We have admitted to no longer being in love, but we have a wonderful 12 year old son whom we adore. I am sick with grief and very concerned that we may ruin his life if we can't figure this out. I have a friend who recommended you to me...but I just don't know. Shouldn't both partners want to work it out in order to gain the best possible benefits from a weekend with you? Any advice would be much appreciated. W

I'm tired. And not ready for this.

The response from the counselors included this...

We have experienced many couples in our weekend that were "done" and felt like they had nothing more. Some have found new hope and regeneration from our concepts and the powerful experience of the weekend and have gone on to have a conscious relationship and a happy family.

Some have found the workshop incredibly eye opening about what has been happening in their relationship for years and have decided to go their separate ways although in a much better space and more clear about how to be good and cooperative parents to their children.

We have people that have divorced and have highly recommended the workshop to others as a valuable experience of self awareness and preparation for the future.

While we hope for and often experience big amazing turn arounds, we have no agenda for the future for couples. Only that they take in the concepts and become more conscious and fulfilled whichever way they decide to go. We are happy to report that the workshop serves as an invaluable experience for virtually everyone whatever relationship state they are in.

I'm sure she loves this.

She said multiple times today no MC. Then more pushing.

But I stick with my boundary. Curious what you think of this? Is there a response better than what I've been giving? What is she doing?