Don't feel bad about needing encouragement. Everyone needs it. I suppose that would be something we could never have too much. When you come through the storm, you will be sharing and encouraging another person.
You have been tested a lot. I've heard it said that we can't have a testimony without the test. So just think what you will have after all of this. Sad to say, but I have learned that it is not the happy-fun times that cause the most growth. We enjoy it and feel the love, but as far as valuable life lessons .........those seem to come through harder times. As with all things we face in life, it is up to us about how to deal with what we have been handed.
Look at Zew. He is using his experience to help others on the board, instead of throwing up his hands and leaving. He has been in the fire and he knows exactly what you are going through right now.
Whenever you have bad moments, or days, come here and find support. It will help you to think straight, instead of acting from emotions.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!