...she got very agitated, and hung up the phone on me. I didn't call her back, I didnt text her. 5 minutes later she texted me "I dont want to argue." Then she called to apologize:
...I must admit that this situation didn't really hurt me at all. This happened before and I used to get very emotional. My heart is either stronger or dried up. I still have love for her, but my constant attempts to save the relationship failed greatly, which caused me to step back and do a 180. I am not an expert but I try not to let her get to me.
Since the past 5 months I have been ... I feel more at peace, almost no stress at all, more focused and happy than when we were together. I feel like Im myself again.
... I will keep praying and doing my thing. No more games. No more the same'ol thing!
WAY TO GO!!!!
As MWD advises you have disengaged, done a 180, and are working on GAL and you are seeing and feeling the difference it is making.
Let me tell you she will be noticing the differences as well and if you keep it up, she will have to treat you differently. Hopefully, the difference will be a way that you like and a way that can be used to rebuild your relationship and marriage.
One of the things that happened when I lost weight got in better shape and strated dressing better was that women friends of my wife commented on how good I looked and how lucky my wife was to have me. That forced her to not take me for granted. She knew other women were checking me out and that if she walked away, one of them might walk in. It created a competition situation where she needed to compete, which was something she hadn't done in decades.
Way to go. Take yourself out, and do something to congratulate yourself on an initial step well done. Keep it up and you will get the love/relationship you want and deserve.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
