Sorry to hear what you are going through; none of us really wanted this. Definitely continue to heal yourself and stay away from the dating scene until ready. I know you are probably sick of hearing this, but things will get better over time.
Focus on you and getting better; definitely exercise and stay in shape as it will not only benefit you physically, but mentally as well by reducing stress and releasing those "feel good" chemicals in your brain. The other plus; you will be in top shape and confidence when you are ready to test the dating waters.
Make what time you do with the kids high quality! This is what I do; my focus is always on D11 when she is with me; I don't let anyone including the girlfriend intrude on that time! I always focus on activities we both like, which right now, is bowling & skating (quad & inline). Great for calorie burning & cardio!
Do you have any hobbies or talents you can use to make some extra cash? This is a great way to enjoy a hobby and earn some extra on the side and is what I stumbled onto during my GAL process. I have played guitar for a long time; I am into Blues & always wanted to build my own. I built a couple of cigar box guitars out of a box and hardware materials using some instructions from the internet. Not only did they play well, I ended up selling them both for more than twice what they cost to build. I ended up building and selling a total of 6. Just so happened one of the customers has a connection to a prominent guitar store that is willing to put these on consignment and expose them to a good customer base. Since I have no garage now, these are on temporary hold until I can find a small place to work from.
Just an idea and example.
Stick it out man, you will recover and will be just fine!
Az
Me: 44 X WAW/MLC: 42 Kids: S21, D11 BD: July 2013 (ILYBNILWY) EAx2: Busted 1 OCT 2013; 25 Mar 2014 Status: Divorcing & Done! Waiting to be final (Nov 2014?) & glad it's finally over!
