YES!!! we have an appointment with a certified sex therapist!!! it's not until Jan, but we have it!!! I belive she is AASECT certified, I know she's certified and works under an AASECT therapist who wrote a book on low libido in women. Guess what i'm gonna read next!
I was reading some of the blogs this particular arthor has written and OMG can I relate....especially to the childhood crap that comes up now in my 40's while I'm in the healthiest relationship I've ever had! go figure. i feel safe enough to not feel safe??? weird. Just reading some of the blogs was making me emotional in the pit of my stomach...smack dab in the middle of my 3rd chakra! geez louise do i have issues to overcome!!
a new year and a new challenge.
to be continued...
You are so good, fighting for your marriage. You are doing exactly what MWD says when she says to Get A Life (GAL) and improve yourself to be the most interesting you, you can be.
Way to go. Yes, feeling safe enough to have childhood fears come out is an interesting fact of life. Welcome to the real world. Hopefully, you H will understand.
Expect sex therapy to push all your emotional buttons (or at least it did to my wife). Preping ahead of time will really help you reduce stress. My wife was so emotionally worked up after each Sex Therapy session that she often needed to just sit in the car, quitely on the drive home to compose herself or if I took her out to a dinner afterwards she would have a stiff drink, order comfort food and just want me to be empathetic for a couple hours without expressing any real thoughts of my own. Still it did save our marriage and make us much happier.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
