Maybe you are trying to read too much into her every action. She is going through an adjustment also. She could be experiencing missing you some, but I think you will need to pull back a lot more in order for her to really feel she has lost you.
You see, she may be divorced, but she KNOWS she still has you. You know it, too. That's why you have to let go. When you really let go, then she will feel it. And then, I think she will begin to pursue you....if you don't keep waiting around.
She needs to see what she lost. She only thought she wanted out. But she really wasn't ready for YOU to be free, single, and available. Get out and do a lot more GAL.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!