I am very concerned about the effect this is having on your children. I can't imagine what it would have done to me if my mother had left our home and did not want to be with me. If they are not in therapy, I suggest you find a good family therapist for you and the kids. You all need professional guidance to cope through this trama. Your W needs help, but you can't make her get it. All you can do is try to help your children.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
