Taking a lot from the boards these days, but haven't given much back. But hoping some of you will have patience with me.
Another parenting question: I was emailing with the director of my D's school the other day. (She emailed me to alert me to an incident that happened that day: my daughter was aggressive with another child, which is unusual behavior for her).
I replied to the director: I'm sorry to hear about this and I hope the other child is ok. I'm curious about how the rest of her day went? Was she generally happy, or were there other frustrations that were building ( maybe with another child, but about the same sort of issue? Maybe she mentioned something else she was upset about? ) Just trying to understand where this might have come from.
I did not ask about whether she thought my M sitch was a factor.
But in her reply, she brought it up: "D has mentioned feeling sad sometimes about the separation between you and her dad. As she has not spoken to me directly about it, I can't tell you exactly what she said. (Teacher) brought it up during a recent staff meeting, as D spoke to her directly about it. "
Should I forward this to H? In a "just wanted to keep you in the loop" sort of way? I want it to be clear that I didn't ask her any leading questions. I haven't brought it up to my D's teachers at all, except to just inform them of the situation. I have a feeling he'd assume that I was being manipulative somehow. But at the same time, if everyone is living under this delusion that my D has not been affected... and we are WRONG about that... shouldn't he know that?
