Yes, Mighty. He's going to need an understanding friend. Or at least one that won't close the door and can LISTEN as things come up.
He acted the fool and he knows it or at least much of it. For at least a day, he has tried to make changes. But like an addict, it's not a day's work - it's a lot more than that.
All this time you spent with anger toward him - and now that dynamic is changing.
Likely the most difficult thing is going to be managing to help the kids with their emotions. Of any of you, they may cycle the hardest as change occurs. You knew that though, right?
And now that you believe us about the hww and how she's no prize? I second Matt's suggestion (and the others) that your ex get a paternity test at some point soon.
Navigating change is the hard part, Mighty. The way to deal with it is to keep your balance for YOU. That's the real "rule" of DB. That and learn to listen before you act. Just so you know
AJ
P.S. I'm dying to know what the deal was with the dress. I almost couldn't read from the tears in my eyes at the way you described that. You have a great way of telling a story. Kind of like Heather in that regard.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
