I believe I've achieved one of my goals here in your thread.
Do you now see, my friend?
That being mean and critical and persistent is not helpful, even with the best intentions?
As for my M, we'll have to acknowledge that we live in different cultural contexts, with different mindsets about M. I'm sure around you and in your heart, the M certificate means a lot. Where I am, which is not in the USA, a majority of babies are born out of wedlock, not because they are born to single moms but because couples don't bother to get married anymore -- they just commit. Separation rates are no higher than elsewhere. I'm certainly not avoiding the hurt of losing my W and seeing her with an OM. I face it several times a day and it is crippling. If I had never signed the M papers, my hurt and my actions would be the same.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
