As for the topic itself, I'm thankful for your views, Vanilla and Wonka. I see where you're coming from. I'm here to save my R and you can call it a M. My feelings and my actions are the same. Some people here are already divorced and continue to fight. The absence of a M doesn't diminish their fight.
The reason why I brought it up is to explain the context in which my W is living now and perhaps how I approach it. I'm not pleased that she has an OM by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, I have nightmares about it, bouts of jealousy and it makes me cry several times a day. So please, don't suggest otherwise anymore. I recognize however that I've no power over it, nor an approval right. I also clarified that I want my W to know that I want her happiness above all. That's what I want her to know, to remember when she's out of the fog. I'm betting that I can be the best husband for her and that she will realize that by thinking back more clearly about our R and by seeing the man that I'm becoming.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
