Oh well. I decided to do it myself. I didn't ask and he didn't mention anything even though he saw the ladder. He offered to help with something else for D (buying some supplies she needs.... because, obviously, I am the default person in charge of all of that. He can't just, like, DO IT. (For the record, I said, "That would be great, thanks!")
These days, (in a marked change from his slight warming up a couple of months ago), he can barely look at me or say two words to me, and could not get out of here fast enough tonight.
Maybe soon I will feel detached enough to be co-worker friendly with no expectations. I'm not going to imagine why he seems to be so uncomfortable around me. Maybe he thinks I'm uncomfortable around him. Maybe he's afraid of giving me the wrong idea. Maybe he is wracked with guilt and shame. I have no clue and don't really care. (all evidence here to the contrary). Ok, I'm on my way to not caring.
