So thinking more about my last post... I knew all these things about H, I just chose to "forgive him" (which really meant holding on to it and hanging it over his head later/bringing it up when he did a similar thing again) and hope that he'd not do that stuff again. But he kept doing it anyway - IMs to a girl from our high school saying they could get together during Thanksgiving and I wouldn't have to know, breaking up with me in college to email a girl in one of his classes to ask about getting together now that he didn't have a girlfriend (and then wanting to get back with me when she said no), breaking up with me again to "see what's out there", and so on and so forth. Now it's a pattern wow, that IS a pattern and has been for awhile....geez. Man, I think he's done you a favor.
Your one liner for the elevator can be "turns out, he didn't want to be married." The end. Seriously, there's not going go a big follow up with that and it's not really blaming him but it's not you taking it on either. And, it's true.
and I think it's time for me to just accept that that's who he is (always looking for what else might be out there, I guess?) and without some significant change or something to show me that's different, it's time to let go of him.
I would ask for change in the past, but he wouldn't do it, and I'd just be happy he came back so I let it slide. This behavior has only cont'd to make me sad over time - I don't want that in my life.
Well It's clearly not behavior designed to make you feel good, that's for sure. You'd always feel like his back up plan and by your dating history, you were.
You can now meet someone who "gets" you and be a priority in their life. Once you see how that feels, you will NOT miss your ex h.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
