Being able to have a nice conversation is a start. Can't reconcile as long as each other are being mean and fighting. I just think a lot of LBH'S are able to stay balanced. They swing too far in one direction or the other.

The glimmer of hope I will try to pass along is that couples do make it through very bad times. It always seems to take longer than you ever thought it would. So don't lose hope due to whatever time it may be taking. There have been several to come back and report that it took a couple of years after they left the board. Mr. Bond's took four years! Starsky's was a long, hard process that would get better then get bad again.....before finally becoming stable and happy. Look how long 25yrs put up with her H! These are just three others who come to mind. And those vets over in MLC deserve a trophy for their endurance! Ever read Jack 3 Beans story? There have been many who reconciled and left the board. Don't give up.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!