I am learning this the hard way u-turn.

This feeling you have... "I can easily turn this into us being best friends again - she would go along with this. I think it is what she wants."

Yes our Ws would likely be fine with that b/c that is their plan. They don't want to hurt our feelings, but they really don't want anything from us except needed stuff like money, parenting, a home, and space.

We have got to turn away from them and get busy doing our own thing. I know this is hard. I fail at this daily and cannot keep doing this. I writing this to you to remind myself. You cannot talk your way out of the friend zone by initiating talks with her. The validating is only to not make things worse when she initiates talks with you. You are trying to fix this by initiating talks with her. Talking does not work. I know because I did that this morning and shot myself in the foot again. Just get out of the house and get very busy taking care your own business and leave her to her life. The best chance of her starting to admire and love you again is to STFU and grow into an interesting busy man.

Last edited by HPoirot; 11/23/14 05:09 PM.

Me: 44
W: 45
S: 11
Married: 15
Together: 18
BD: 9/29/2014
OM discovered: 10/16/2014
I left her behind: 12/14/2014