Do I walk away from WAW? (3)

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Thanks RAI. It can be difficult, as I think she sees herself as a friend to our marriage, and thinks she is being constructive with these comments. They often come when I am feeling low or vulnerable and looking for a reason why this is all happening. I am renewing my focus and keeping her out of it. It is a sticky mess though. The friend texted me three times yesterday. It's not as if I seek her out, she's just very entwined in our lives.

It honestly no longer feels like I am saving this marriage, but I am going to do my best to stick to the Db principles. They've served me well so far, and gotten me to a much better place. I'll continue detaching, supporting my kids, treating her cordially, and doing nothing that speeds S along (there's still not talk of D and there won't be - W clearly just wants our M to go dormant). At the end of this, it's her decision. I don't want her or anyon else to be able to point the finger at me for ending this.

I agree RAI that she is building a narrative. I think she's past reflecting on how we got here and now it's all about justifying what she does going forward. I have no ability to influence that. I know who I am and what I want from my life. I'm not even sure she's a part of that anymore.