Mozza (5)

[Mozza]

Another thing: She was upset we couldn't switch week-ends with the kids so that she'd be free this week-end. It makes it delicate to mention the kids.

I don't want to ask for her plans: I don't want to pry and I don't want to risk hearing about the OM (though she's carefully avoided mentioning him, except for the announcement).

A few options.

Impersonal
Happy birthday! Hope you're having an entire week-end of celebrations. [And then I really don't know what to add!]

Supportive
Happy birthday. I hope you're having a good day and a good year, really. I'm happy to see you take steps to be happier in your life. That's what I wish for you and hope to be able to contribute.

This one's really hard to write because it implies: I agree that you had to leave me and I'm glad you're with an OM that makes you happy. As much as I want to DB, it's beyond what I feel, even though I genuinely want her to be happy (with an improved me...). Also, it sounds like I've moved on, I've no interest in getting back with her. Knowing her, she probably doubts that already (she doubted it the DAY I stopped crying and pleading...).

I really really don't know what to write. Time to shine? It doesn't matter because of OM anyway? We're too early in the sitch? She's gone for good? It will be misinterpreted?

And for those tempted to suggest: "Write what YOU want to write", it goes along the line of: please come back, I'm sorry for everything, I've changed, we'll have a great year together, this OM is not for you... ;-)