To answer some of your questions, the settlement issue we are having is in regards to retirement funds, bank accounts, future earnings, etc. It isn't alimony. I know that I owe her some sort of settlement, but it just ERKS me to have to pay her anything. She didn't have two nickels to rub together when we met. I did. Now, she wants to walk away and take a little with her. What makes that even more of a sore spot for me is, she quickly moved on with an OM, dated, quit her job, traveled, partied, vacationed, made purchases, went back to school and is now engaged. She has a sugar daddy. I earn my living.I take daughter to the dentist. Wife gets a tattoo and a boob job. We live that sort of dynamic. It just pisses me off that I am struggling, and she is literally living the life of a rock star, AND she wants a paycheck from me. I can barely pay my bills, and she doesn't even work to support herself. It just goes against my grain. I feel that if she wanted to just flat leave, then just flat leave. She has found a new person to support her. Let him support her.!
As far as parenting plan, ours is very basic. Furthermore, it isn't even court ordered. It is just the basic plan which we discussed during mediation. Unfortunately, we didn't come to a full agreement in mediation (financial portion), so the parenting plan was left on the table. Regardless, Wife is being selfish, and she isn't sticking to what we originally discussed.
A new issue is looking me in the eye. My Mother passed away recently, and now I am inheriting a 50% ownership in our family business. That is going to DRAMAICALLY change my net worth. It won't change my income, but it will change what I am worth on paper. Wife knows this, and she has mentioned modifying the divorce. I think it is time to just pay her off and get this divorce settled, before it ends up costing me a portion of what my family has worked for 4 generations to build.
As far as dating goes, I am just struggling to meet women that I feel are compatible with me. I am doing the online thing. I have a few dates here and there, but few and far between. I have flirted around and dated some, outside of the online approach, and that's seems to fit me much better. Unfortunately, there just doesn't seem to be a lot of prospects out there. It seems I am attracting girls that are WAY too young for me, or women that are WAY too old or just not compatible with my lifestyle. I am 44, but often get mistaken for being much younger. I am not into the bar scene, and to be honest, I haven't made huge efforts to look for other ways of meeting women. I know that things will settle in. It is just a process. I am out, being busy and living life. I am spending time with Daughter, focusing on work and home. I do get very lonely at times. I very much miss the domestic lifestyle. It would be nice to have a partner, but I am missing the mark by a little. I just need to get my aim down
