I don't think that was too harsh, so I'm ok I see what you're saying. I think I'm having trouble accepting that this behavior/"who he is"/the copping out is reality because it's not at all what I value in people, and I don't want to be around such people... because then that means I'm really no longer interested in him and it's time to let him go. He's not who I thought he was, or what I wanted him to be. And that's a very difficult thing to come to terms with, I guess.
I did a little GAL thing today - an old friend from high school asked about getting together for lunch. Normally I'd be "meh" about getting together on such short notice, but I figured why not? It was good to get together and catch up. Of course, the topic of H came up. Friend told me that she never wanted to say this before because of how I might react... but apparently she and another friend (we'll call other friend "E") were out somewhere and ran into H sometime a little before our wedding. According to my friend, H kept talking to E (she felt like he was hitting on her.. who knows) and then afterwards got in touch with my friend to suggest they all hang out together and asked for E's contact info. =| Not the best thing to hear, but maybe he's just really always been someone other than I thought and I just wasn't fully aware (or ignored it). It doesn't really matter at this point so I'm not going to dwell on it or try and confirm whether or not it happened like how she says, but it adds another nail to the coffin of the person I thought H was. Friend is pretty anti-H (told me "he's always been a d*ck, sorry to say") so it could be a skewed story... but I don't want to be with someone that people are telling stories about and that I have to constantly worry about when they go places w/out me.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final