Well, I can easily think of what not to do - cry, ask about OW, beg him to stay, grab hold of his ankles as he's walking out of the door...I'm sure none of these will happen of course!

I suppose the books would say to aim for 'lovingly distant.' Be pretty busy when he comes over. Show him by your demeanour - hey this has happened, but I'm still standing. Come across as centred and balanced.

Talk about the boys and what they have been up to. Talk about your GAL activities. Look good and smell nice.

And try not to worry about it all too much. Maybe just focus on not doing stuff that will make anything worse. And be the person you want to be without worrying too much about him right now.

Hope this helps....and good luck :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus