I sent this through to her:
"I agree that it is comfortable to feel this way and it's all we've had our entire adult lives, but I do not see how that is a bad thing if we grow together. I would like to know your thoughts about this.

I've said this before, one of the key parts of a marriage, I believe, is forgiveness. We have both made mistakes and bad decisions in our lives that we have learned and can still learn from. We've made so many good decissions too that have given us so much.

If we are both in this I think we can work through this. But I do not know if you are there. I still feel like you will not let me in. I would like to hear any solutions that you may have.

I do not agree that you are not worthy of my time or love. I do not see it that way. That is my decision to make.

But I do feel that I cannot keep trying to pressure you to be my wife again. I do not want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me.

I know this is difficult for both of us and we both have decisions to make."

It's a bit all over the place, but I felt that I wanted to respond.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015