The reason I asked the original question Wet, is that in the process of me figuring out myself, and which of MY needs were met by her "way"...I wonder if I was addicted to it (and I am not a big fan of the "everything is an addiction" Psych philosophy).
My role of rescuer, fixer, counselor, protector fed some very powerful ego needs and the subsequent "feel good" chemicals in the brain.
Plus, as long as I was doing the above ^^^ , she wouldn't leave me. Which assuaged MY big core fear, abandonment.
Just something to ponder bud.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
