She was in a Montessori program for preschool through kinder but got kicked out. Yep. They didn't want to out up with her inability to conform and be a quiet learner. The academics were challenging but her behavior was off the charts.
Now she's in private school with only 13 kids in her class and still struggles. The academics are NOT challenging and while she still does well her behavior is still a problem.
Labug,
I would not be a good candidate for homeschooling. She and I are so similar is so many ways and too much time together makes us butt heads. Plus, if I'm divorced, I have to work. See where I'm going here??
She has anxiety, too. That's part of it all. She's on meds for it. Anxiety, inability to self soothe (which means tantrums last for hours), incredibly easily frustrated (mostly be her own lack of perfection). I've gotten her to a point where she is MUCH more forgiving and patient with herself. For that I'm just so grateful because her self esteem has been so low she would talk about wanting to die.
What do I want to do? I want to do what it takes to get answers and I feel like testing doesn't even really do that. It's frustrating. Teachers don't understand fully when I say, "she can't control her impulses". They often think that means "she won't control her impulses so you have to be a tyrant and punish her all the time so she'll learn to control her impulses". No. That just isn't how it works.
Yes, my location allows me many resources but it's hard to figure out the best direction. We've tried so many already with no real results.
My instinct tells me (brace yourself) it's high-giftedness, with moderate ODD, severe ADHD and maybe mild Asperger's.
And if I'm correct, wtf do I do for her to make school a challenge but her behavior more appropriate?
