Mr.Bond, my wife says we fight a lot. I'm of the opinion that we fight occasionally . I have raised my voice to her and have felt bad for it after.
I guess it's possible she's having an A. Although I highly doubtful.
Yes I can be very impatient and condescending. I know this is something I need to work on. I'm also very A type in my personality and have a very hard time "losing" an argument. I am very much guilty of acting like i'm smarter always right and know better.
Money arguments are rare. I can't remember a time when one of us criticized the other for spending.
Yesterday I moved out. My W and I were both at the house during the afternoon. Some of the time we laughed and talked casually about things. She mentioned that my mother had called her and they had a good talk. My mother didn't take sides she just wanted to make sure my wife was ok. My wife told me she was very happy to hear from her.
I couldn't help myself but push the issue and try to come up with solutions. I suggested an in house separation. My W says that would only cause us to argue about staying together and that she didn't want to hurt me everyday by telling me she doesn't love me anymore and that's why she doesn't want to work on things.
I decided I agreed with her. I packed a bag and we shared a tearful embrace as I walked out the door.
On the way to my new home I called my mother. I was curious how the conversation went and what my wife might have told my mother.
My mother told me she felt bad for my wife. She said my wife cried and cried and feels hopeless that nothing would ever get better. I felt so awful for not noticing it. My mother pointed out that much like my father i'm quite stubborn and always need to be right.
So based on all this i'm really feeling hopeless. Last night I spend the night with a few of my old friends. They were very supportive and i actually forgot about my sadness for a few hours. The second I woke up I felt like weeping again.
I'm so scared that I have lost the love of my life forever.
