You can do the same thing that your wife does that appeals to you. Go out and do new and different things. If you are anything like me (incredibly shy) make yourself talk to strangers everyday. It could be at the grocery store line, in a video store. You name it. I will admit I really push myself there. My girls constantly tease me, "you are not shy Mom. You talk to so many people!". If they only knew how hard that really is for me.
Keep the parts of her life that shake yours up and that you enjoy. You and your life will begin to change .
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory