During the S S21 and I went out to dinner, just the 2 of us a couple of times a month. We got to talk a lot during those dinners and especially oont he drive to and from. Driving is a good time to talk with kids, I've learned.
When H came back in the picture, that changed and when we went out it was the 3 of us. Different dynamic.
I missed the one-to-one with S21 so last week he and I went to dinner and we decided to make it a regular thing, twice a month. During the dinner, S21 said: "Y'know Mom, when Dad comes home and is talking about things that happen at his job, you should just listen. Sometimes you try to fix things and that's not what he needs. He just needs you to listen."
So I choked back my defensive response and said, "You are absolutely right. Thanks for the reminder."
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
