Mine acted in the classic narc fashion when my xsil died.

He had met her once I think, never really spent any time with her and did not know her.

When I told him she died, he waited about 30 seconds gasped in huge horror loud gasp mouth open paused then clapped his hand over his mouth. Another min passes, he then starts saying omg she was sooo young she was x y and z! Over acting at its best.

He mentioned he would contact s16 to offer support, um nope, didn't bother. No card no call.

Even the fact he didn't reply to emails for mediation was my fault!
Everything is not his fault even jobs he has done for others, doesn't give a cr@p so narc is quiet true. Even down to I needed to be happy and not stand in his happiness journey as a devoted partner, all about him. No care about me, no remorse no empathy no concern.

And his neat plan included the same 3 points you made above.

Last edited by Ggrass; 11/22/14 12:33 PM.
M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26