Hi essjay! I agree that you are doing great... in a very tough situation.
I like that your W is comfortable enough to stay in your home. You deserve much credit for this.
If you want the best chance for a new and better marriage with your W, I suggest you stay on your present course. Continue to give her space while building up your new life without her.
As I posted to you earlier, I doubt W is going to stick with women. Wonka's experience agrees with this.
Have you studied about MLC, both here and elsewhere? This stuff takes time, and lots of it. Is your long term marriage worth it to you? I get the sense that it is... like mine is to me.
Will you still be there when W wakes up? I know right now you hope to be.
Continue to look for little opportunities to connect, and build on it. If W is not receptive, that's ok, just pull back and give her space and time. But make no mistake... maintaining that connection will have you guys that much closer when she does have a change of heart.
Continue building a satisfying life of your own, that doesn't rely on W.
Then, when you do receive the little glimpses of the old, or better still, the new and improved W, (and you WILL) it will only add to the joy in your life.
Bust On my friend, you got this!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
