Completely relatable about the exclamation point.... I overthink that, too. I agree with you, tho. I believe it matters how we present ourselves, not overly excited, as it could be seen as a form of "pursuit."
My son was in trouble from the ages of 3-7.... Yes, we had him tested. Glad we did. Started down the add track, knowing that wasn't it for him. He was diagnosed with Aspergers at age 7. Through school programs etc....no one would see this in him today. ( not suggesting it's the same for your D, just advocating testing in general).
