Yes, it does seem like our wives are similar in nature. Yes, I too am structured, like things planned, and ordered. My kids give me bit of the spontaneity and drama (and liveliness) that I desire.
Here is a funny example. My d20 lived on her own for almost a year before moving in with me. She would stay out late, even overnight, and I would dutifully text her at midnight, asking if she was ok. After a few weeks of this, d20 wore me down and I now only check in on her every other night.
What void did my W fill for me? She always was into something new, meeting new people, and getting into trouble. All of this was something I enjoyed adding into my life. I also liked being the person my W looked to when something wasn't working out. I thought we complemented each other really well. And yes, I really miss having this part of my W in my life.
