Yeah, I suppose you're right, its probably her time to cool off. I just wish she wasn't making so many decisions that affect both of us during this period. She bought a house w/o saying anything to me and w/o a separation agreement!
I keep forgetting that she's going through as many or more emotional ups and downs as me. It's so easy to convince myself that she knew what she was getting into when she left, that she shouldn't be so angry/bitter.
I'm pretty certain she didn't think that anyone had any clue about her other R when I confronted her about it a month or so ago. I messed up when we were talking and I told her that I was one of the last people to figure it out (I was, it took a while to get out of denial.) I think at that point she then realized that others really did see her leaving for some of what it was since it was so sudden. She had lied to a bunch of our friends and she gave each a different story so they figured it out within a week or so. Also, we really didn't have any overt marital issues (even I didn't know there were any significant issues with our M at the time, truthfully.) I'm sure she had a plan when she left and it doesn't seem like anything is going according to it for her.
Well, if that's the case. I guess I could see that it would be really awkward being around me since I know what was going on and then talking about the S. I have been giving her as much space as I possibly can. Its just tough with the kids having NC with the other person during the other's time and also when she's making these decisions that affect our finances.
Last edited by MCS; 11/22/1401:30 AM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
