On the brink, need a miracle

[Onguard]

Thanks Starsky and Theoden. WW and I had a blowout today. She is having reservations about moving out due to our D13 and tried to guilt me into being the one to leave. She told me I was being selfish and didn't care how all of this would affect our D13. That's when I let it go. I asked her if she was thinking about our daughter when she was having sex with him in our house. Or when she was meeting with him time and time again over a 6 month span. I also told her that since she needs time and space, not me, why would I leave?

She also "blames me 100% for ruining her relationship with her son." Our son is 20 years old and I told him about the A within an hour of finding out because he was in the house at the moment of impact. Again, I said, "I think your ACTIONS had a little to do with the situation. I told our ADULT son the truth."

I guess some marriages just can't be saved. She has totally checked out and has done nothing except blame shift and rug sweep in addition to showing zero remorse. I agree, it's time to man up.