Not sure what to do at this point

[Tina825]

Thank you for the replies. I've been gone for a while from the boards and have had a lot happen since I last posted. He came back in February 2014 and we did very well, in counseling, both IC and MC. Then once again the filp flopper came out and he left in May, the same time my Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She passed away June 19th and he didn't even come to her service. I was so humiliated and felt so disrespected and the disrespect for my Mother is huge. He filed for divorce 8/14 and I got an attorney as well. Then we had started "talking" again about how to work on us and he asked me to attend a marriage boot camp which I reluctantly agreed to. While there the OW would not stop texting. He showed me all the texts and appeared to be giving our M 100%. We attended for 4 days, came back and within two days he was gone back to the OW. We are now sharing our S10, every other week and my son hates going. I had my lawyer put in paperwork no contact with OW, so I don't have a concern there. I honestly don't know what to do at this point. Our D will come slow as we have a lot of assets to split and I've tried to talk to him about splitting them. He refuses. I'm doing the 180 and going dark when I can. Hard because we run a business together and have our S. It's been over 2 years since the A began and this OW seems to have some kind of power of him. I am still in IC, obviously no MC happening right now and he isn't doing IC. Sort of lost, still love him and would love to stay M, but I feel it will always be this way with the back and forth and I will not do that.