Roberta, I would love nothing more then to talk to a coach. I'll be needing to get some finances in order to make new living arrangements so I don't know if that's an option right now. I will see what I can do.
MrBond, I have purchased a copy of the DB book and am waiting for it in the mail. I might just go to the book store because i feel like I really need some help now. I'm trying to remain calm but my wife seems so final in the language she is using.
As for fights. My wife says we fight all the time. I can't reconcile that. In my opinion we fight about little things and only here and there. I actually confronted her today to see if there was someone else. I could be wrong but I did believe her when she told me there wasn't. Our mutual friends whom i've sought advice from also don't see her as the type.
As for our fights. She recently started doing some distance learning. She asks me for help as i'm college educated and we would often get frustrated with each other. I know our fights over that would be one of her main issues. She also said i'm too controlling. Although I can only think of one time when I had a problem with her doing something. About 8 months ago, I wasn't too keen on her having a girls weekend out of town. In hindsight I do trust her and should have let her be. Other then that, simple bickering about house chores and little things around budgeting but nothing that I would consider serious. We are not rich but certainly don't have what I would call money problems. Our bills get paid on time each month.
We had another talk today and she is still very final in her words. Talking about us both moving out of our home and downsizing, switching names on bills etc. I've never seen this side of my wife in our 7 years.
