Mighty, my H is very social too. He goes to all events he can, if he likes them. He went to celebrate other women’s b-days too. At least he didn’t prevent me from doing the same, actually encouraged. Which upset me, because I thought that we were supposed to do things together as a couple. I do realize now that I had a codependency issue. But H also had too much of independent behavior issue.
Shining, do you really think I can give you lessons, LOL? Busy social life is not a natural thing for me. I literally force myself sometimes. Which is what I did with the coworkers. I had to drive for 30 min to get where they wanted to meet. Let me say one thing though, I feel pretty comfortable in most environments. It didn’t used to be like that. I was a very shy girl when I was little. I’ve gradually building my confidence and my social skills for my entire life. Actually H helped me a lot in this by just taking me places and doing what he was always doing, like meeting new people and starting the conversations with strangers. I believe that he was also doing it to overcome his insecurities.
Anyway, the same friends from work invited me for a happy hour again today and also to go to some bar with life band tomorrow. I declined this time. I had very hectic week at work and I’m exhausted. I’m actually working from home today.
I also have some ongoing discussion with my GF (from the vacation home). There are some hard feelings expressed. I will get to this later.
Just want to give a quick update. I received an e-mail from H with a whole paragraph. He addressed my by name this time. Then he tells me that he paid himself this month and is sending me an updated company file. He says “Hopefully you have time to do the payroll taxes.” And then another “hopefully” statement, saying that he hopes to pay him one more time this year, and then this: “but not sure how much more I will be able to make the rest of this shitty business year I am having. Brutal!” He also says that I probably heard that from our mutual friends that he is coming down for Thanksgiving week, and that he thinks that our male mutual friend will be staying with me this Sunday (he will be coming back from his Mom’s funeral). Then he tells me that he can pick up his mail on Monday if I have it collected for him.
He ends with “Hope all is well with you. Take care” and signs his name.
So, I read this e-mail and immediately fell into a sympathetic mood. I wanted to reply right away with the words of support and comfort. What is wrong with me? I will still reply politely and say that I’m sorry he is having a bad year.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
