Yes, he may be hurting too, but he had choices and he made the wrong ones. He could have returned at any time and tried to fix things between you, but he choose not to. Right now, the only thing I see hurting him is the fact that his wallet is squeezing from having to put money out to fix the home and pay his lawyer and yes, eventually settling up w/you as his former spouse. He actually thought you would be right where he left you until he had enough of the ow and his fantasy life. Shame on him. He is now facing the consequences of his actions.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
