Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt.2

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I had counseling last night. The counselor helped me talk through my actions and figure out what I think is right, which is to back down on the more aggressive separation terms.

Wife got home at 5 AM last night/this morning, looks like she slept at a friends house. We talked more this morning and she broke down crying saying "I'm sure your attorney told you to threaten me with that and you would get whatever you want and he's right you can have whatever you want I'll sign anything. If you sue OM it will destroy my career, I don't care about him I care about myself. My career is all I have left now."

I apologized for making her feel threatened. And I told her I would like to put what we discussed and anymore separation talk on hold until after Thanksgiving.

She told me she wants me to be consistent and I told her I want her to be honest.

Convo ended with her in tears saying she is all alone, doesn't have support from anyone who knows about the affair to fall back on. I consoled her and said I know you're hurting and I'm hurting too. She said "it's all my fault, I'm sorry I'm hurting you. And you can believe what you want but I am not continuing the A with OM, I'm not in love with him, he isn't a part of my life. I'm not leaving you to be with him."