Rzr ... I have been there. You feel if you are there for her emotionally its the way to get back in her "good graces" I assure you ... this will bring you months/years of pain .
The Wet Noodle/ Back bone thing is spot on. If she brings up OM, at that point you put her in her place and say "The A you are HAVING (not had) is disrespectful to me, our marriage and our family and I will not live in an open marriage" Then you promptly leave that torpedo in her head and leave as it blows up. She will kick and scream like a 2 year old ... but hopefully respects you are being a man about it and making a stand.
She does not feel passionate about you because you have allowed yourself to be a doormat, she does not see you as Lancelot ... I realize these are some harsh things to think about, but you need the 2x4 here.... I needed the same one. I have read some books aimed at just this issue (can not post them here) ... but you need to rebuild your self esteem and get your mind right. GAL, with this in mind .... do things that build you up ... I went as far to buy a Harley .. always wanted one but she said no .. and I said yes maam ... I mean WTF? That was not living .. that was serving.
Don't worry about what she is saying/doing ... she is all pins and needles on the OM, let that run its course and use your gift of time to rebuild yourself.
