Thanks Zew- wise words indeed! Hope things are going well with you.
That's actually how I had been feeling (and acting) up until the recent discovery. We didn't need to be friends, but I didn't have to be a jerk either. I'm just having a setback that I'm sure I'll get over in time.
I actually sent W an email yesterday afternoon after my meeting with the atty to discuss dissolution. Asked when she thought she'd be able to give me half the fees involved and went over the timeline. Said I'd prefer to do it later in January so that the holidays aren't ruined for the kids. She has yet to respond. I'm guessing I'll either get a response on how she's still conflicted or that she'll just ignore it all together, forcing me to f/u. With the dissolution, we have to pretty much work together and agree to everything as opposed to a D where I could just have her served.
I'm feeling ok about moving on. Honestly, it won't be much different. We've spent the past 14 mos separated and I've been the sole household caretaker for the past 8 mos. If anything, I think it will help me move past the anger I hold towards her.
Wedding tonight for a girl we used to babysit. I was planning on leaving after the ceremony (to avoid being seated at the same table as W), but maybe I'll just play it by ear.
